CONSCIOUS LIFE SKILLS NEWSLETTER - February 2008
Conscious Life Skills newsletter
No.7, February 2008
Frequency: 6 times per year
Website: http://www.consciouslifeskills.com
Mail to: frances@consciouslifeskills.com
No.7, February 2008
Frequency: 6 times per year
Website: http://www.consciouslifeskills.com
Mail to: frances@consciouslifeskills.com
c2008 Conscious Life Skills
Self coaching tip
Do you ho'o'ponopono?
Do you ho'o'ponopono?
“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.”
Bryant H. McGill
Bryant H. McGill
What is ho'o'ponopono?
No, ho’o’ponopono is not playing with a hoop, as the look of the word suggests. It is actually an ancient Hawaiian art of a way to cause Love, Peace and Harmony for all (past and present) and for you to resolve all problems in your life. It is essentially the art of forgiveness - to make right. It is a culturally recognized tool used to mediate forgiveness in many court bottlenecks in Hawaii today.
How does ho’o’ponopono work?
Basically, you accept that you take total responsibility for what happens inside you and for what happens to other people outside of you and for people you don’t even know.
So the politician whose slick speech you don’t like, the violent criminal whose acts you abhor, the partner who dumped you - whatever made them act in the way they did, is part of you! Most of us think of total responsibility this way: we're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does.
When discord arises, you use four basic words and phrases to address the disharmony within you, or, where your attention is being focused away from you, the disharmony in another.
These phrases are:
Thank you.
Please forgive me.
I love you.
I’m sorry that ….
This is a process that can be done inside yourself or as a process with another person. You can do this at the beginning and end of each day as a release. It really doesn’t matter that you know or list the names of people whose toes you’ve trodden upon. When the memory of someone who has caused you hurt comes up, say softly, Please forgive me. I love you. When you know someone is hurting, say, I love you. I'm sorry you're hurting. You can also do this with troublespots in your local community or on a more global scale.
What's the proof that ho’o’ponopono works?
Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len * was a therapist in Hawaii, whose methods cured a
complete ward of criminally insane patients at Hawaii State Hospital - without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look
within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he
improved himself, the patient improved.
When asked what he was doing inside himself that changed these people, Dr Len explains that he was healing the part of him that created them. When he looked at a patient’s files, he just kept saying, I’m sorry, and I love you, over and over again.
Eventually, patients who needed to be constrained, were being allowed to walk freely. Yet others, formerly heavily medicated, were getting off their medication. For those who had been judged as never being able to leave hospital, they were being freed. Staff morale rose, and yet others wanted to to be employed there.
In a nutshell: Ho’o’ponopono is simply about showing gratitude for the things in your life that you are thankful for and that you want to grow and flourish, and showing forgiveness for the things that you want to go away or diminish.
* Interview with Dr. Ihaleakala Hew. Viewed at 24/01/08 at www.lightworks.com/monthlyaspectarian/2006/September/conversation_Ihalekala.html
No, ho’o’ponopono is not playing with a hoop, as the look of the word suggests. It is actually an ancient Hawaiian art of a way to cause Love, Peace and Harmony for all (past and present) and for you to resolve all problems in your life. It is essentially the art of forgiveness - to make right. It is a culturally recognized tool used to mediate forgiveness in many court bottlenecks in Hawaii today.
How does ho’o’ponopono work?
Basically, you accept that you take total responsibility for what happens inside you and for what happens to other people outside of you and for people you don’t even know.
So the politician whose slick speech you don’t like, the violent criminal whose acts you abhor, the partner who dumped you - whatever made them act in the way they did, is part of you! Most of us think of total responsibility this way: we're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does.
When discord arises, you use four basic words and phrases to address the disharmony within you, or, where your attention is being focused away from you, the disharmony in another.
These phrases are:
Thank you.
Please forgive me.
I love you.
I’m sorry that ….
This is a process that can be done inside yourself or as a process with another person. You can do this at the beginning and end of each day as a release. It really doesn’t matter that you know or list the names of people whose toes you’ve trodden upon. When the memory of someone who has caused you hurt comes up, say softly, Please forgive me. I love you. When you know someone is hurting, say, I love you. I'm sorry you're hurting. You can also do this with troublespots in your local community or on a more global scale.
What's the proof that ho’o’ponopono works?
Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len * was a therapist in Hawaii, whose methods cured a
complete ward of criminally insane patients at Hawaii State Hospital - without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look
within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he
improved himself, the patient improved.
When asked what he was doing inside himself that changed these people, Dr Len explains that he was healing the part of him that created them. When he looked at a patient’s files, he just kept saying, I’m sorry, and I love you, over and over again.
Eventually, patients who needed to be constrained, were being allowed to walk freely. Yet others, formerly heavily medicated, were getting off their medication. For those who had been judged as never being able to leave hospital, they were being freed. Staff morale rose, and yet others wanted to to be employed there.
In a nutshell: Ho’o’ponopono is simply about showing gratitude for the things in your life that you are thankful for and that you want to grow and flourish, and showing forgiveness for the things that you want to go away or diminish.
* Interview with Dr. Ihaleakala Hew. Viewed at 24/01/08 at www.lightworks.com/monthlyaspectarian/2006/September/conversation_Ihalekala.html